We don’t like waste—of time, energy, or anything else for that matter. The efficiency-driven part of us, the one that thrives on getting things done and keeping life running smoothly, is always calculating: What’s the most effective way to move things forward?
Open-ended conversations can feel like a risk, a detour from the tangible progress we crave. Why talk in circles when there are tasks to complete? Yet, when every conversation becomes transactional—about waking up, hurrying up, following up—we lose something essential. We lose the space to dream, to connect, to explore.
Here are three reasons why making room for open-ended conversations is not just important, but essential:
1️⃣ They restore energy, not drain it. When everything is about efficiency, even interactions with loved ones start to feel like obligations rather than connections. Open-ended conversations let us step outside of productivity mode and into curiosity, where ideas and emotions flow freely. That’s where we recharge.
2️⃣ They create clarity without force. Instead of pushing people (or ourselves) toward a predetermined outcome, these conversations allow for organic insights. By suspending judgment, we make space for perspectives and possibilities we might have otherwise missed.
3️⃣ They remind us that connection is a goal in itself. Not everything has to be purposeful in the traditional sense. Relationships thrive in the in-between moments, the ones where we’re not strategizing or optimizing but simply being together. Those moments build trust, ease, and a sense of belonging.
Rest, Reflect, Rewire
Not just a break, but a recalibration
that will ripple into everything you do
A retreat designed for women with AuDHD in their lives who are ready to step out of survival mode and into a space where rest isn’t a reward—it’s the foundation for realignment, clarity, and connection.
Join us for three days of deep restoration, open-ended exploration, and gentle rewiring to create sustainable, nourishing momentum in your life.
🔹 Rest restores energy, not drains it. Step away from the constant push of productivity and let your nervous system settle, so you can recharge in ways that truly sustain you.
🔹 Reflect creates clarity without force. Through guided practices and open-ended conversations, you’ll uncover insights that emerge naturally—no pressure, just space to explore.
🔹 Rewire reminds you that connection is a goal in itself. By shifting from transactional interactions to genuine presence, you’ll build a new rhythm that supports both your needs and your relationships.
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One Step Towards the Universe is a weekly co-working and parallel play space where you can practice some open ended exploration now—by gently moving towards what nourishes you, in the company of others who get it. ✨ Ask me how
Letting go of control, even just a little, can feel uncomfortable.
But when we allow for conversations that don’t have to go anywhere, we create room for growth, creativity, and connection that energizes rather than exhausts.
What might shift for you if you gave yourself permission to explore more open-ended moments?
AuDHD-friendly affirmation for permissive women
Many women with AuDHD in their lives enjoy allowing others to follow their own winding paths
They are conditioned to shutting down wonder and focusing on managing for results.
Which undermines our ability to become intimate with the dreams of ourselves and others.
Remember you can be curious without being judgemental and advice giving.
I trust you with time to wander and wonder and share silly things.
Rest Reflect Rewire Retreat holds safe space for all of you to unwind, unravel and repair.
Notes on why open ended conversations matter
Please write a post for women with AuDHD in their lives highlighting three reasons it’s important to allow space for open ended conversations in our lives . Two paragraph intro.
We don’t like waste
Of time or energy
Or anything else for that matter
Accumulator!
> Efficiency
Hard working
Waiting is stressful / distracting
Hmmmmmmm
Open ended conversations feels risky
Maverick and connector right there
Leaning heavily into shadow of accumulator
Outreach is essential
Make every conversation count
Open ended conversation – this sounds amazing
Omg, mostly trying to get people to do things!
So communication is focused and purposeful, strategic even.
Using everything at yoru disposal to motivate the people around you to do the things you believe they need to be doing.
Ordinary, household stuff.
Following up, waking up, hurrying up.
And there’s never enough time!!!!
Imagine a space where the essentials are taken care of, and there is time to dream and talk open ended and openly about aspirations, doubts and desires.
That’s a beautiful integration of suspending judgment to allow for curiosity and exploration.
That’s a powerful indicator—when things that once brought joy and ease now feel heavy or draining, it’s a clear signal that the energy is out of alignment. It’s like the body and mind are saying, this isn’t nourishing anymore. It sounds like a shift toward paying attention to energetic flow, noticing when the well-being has tipped into depletion rather than productive growth.
More posts about making space for you
There are a heap of reasons to take space and time for you especially as a woman with AuDHD in your life.
“I need a holiday!”
– Momentum, Transitions and Capacity
Fill your own cup first
– Energy leaks, guilt and lack of practice
Tending the quiet flame of joy
– compass, anchor, connection
Why open ended conversations matter
– dream, connect, explore
Step away to find your way
– separation, honesty, satisfaction
