(Especially with AuDHD in your life)

You know you’re supposed to fill your own cup first. You’ve heard all the metaphors—oxygen masks, overflowing cups, giving from abundance rather than depletion. And yet, when it comes time to actually rest in a way that feels truly replenishing, something always gets in the way. Maybe it’s the never-ending list of tiny energy leaks (just fix this one last thing), the sudden drama that flares up the moment you try to exhale, or the heavy weight of guilt because others don’t have the same privilege to step away. Instead of feeling restored, you end up feeling more drained from the effort of trying.

Filling your own cup is complicated when you’re the one everyone counts on—when even love and care flow in a way that leaves you perpetually poured out. And then there’s the fear: What if you finally fill your cup, only to lose it all? What if you taste real ease, only to realize it isn’t sustainable? What if resting means confronting things you’d rather avoid? So you keep going, half-full at best, believing it’s safer that way. But what if you didn’t just rest so you could keep giving? What if you rested to find out what you actually need?

Three Reasons It’s Hard to Fill Your Own Cup

🌊 Energy Leaks Everywhere – Just as you’re about to settle in, a small task pops up—and then another, and another. Your brain tells you that fixing just one more thing will help you finally relax, but that moment never comes. Your energy seeps out in a thousand tiny directions, leaving nothing for yourself.

🔥 Guilt for Resting – If you pause, the weight of everything that still needs doing looms large. Other people are struggling, and stepping away feels selfish. But guilt is a terrible fuel source—when you give from guilt rather than fullness, it drains both you and the people you’re trying to help.

🔄 Out of Practice – What even is true rest? When you’ve spent years running on empty, deep restoration can feel foreign—or even unsafe. Your brain might tell you it’s pointless, or that if you finally get a taste of it, you’ll have to share, lose it, or never get it again. But what if learning to rest was like learning to breathe again—something that, once found, becomes a natural rhythm?

Rest, Reflect, Rewire

A Retreat for Your Neurodivergent Nervous System

You want to fill your own cup, but it’s never as simple as it sounds. Energy leaks keep you in motion, guilt whispers that you should be doing something else, and deep rest feels so unfamiliar that you don’t even know where to start.

That’s where Rest, Reflect, Rewire comes in—a retreat designed specifically for neurodivergent women who give so much and rarely get the kind of replenishment that truly lasts.

✨ Rest – Stop the energy leaks. Learn how to step away without everything unspooling.
💛 Reflect – Release the guilt. Find a new way to relate to rest—without the weight of “should.”
🔄 Rewire – Build the practice. Experience rest in a way that sticks, so you don’t have to keep running on empty.

This isn’t about “taking a break” just to return to the same cycle. It’s about changing your relationship with rest—so you can finally feel full in a way that lasts.

Ready to step into a different kind of restoration? 💫

[✨ Book your place✨]

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One Step Towards the Universe is a weekly co-working and parallel play space where you can start filling your cup now —one drop at a time—by gently moving towards what nourishes you, in the company of others who get it. ✨  Ask me how

✨ What if filling your cup wasn’t about earning the right to keep giving—but about discovering what your own fullness actually feels like?