I am currently researching the experiences of women who have prioritised child and family care over financial independence for some period of their lives.
If this is you, and you’re willing to share in any capacity, please contact me directly.
I am planning to start a podcast around this topic in the next couple of months, featuring interviews with women who have been in that vulnerable situation and managed to expand from there in unanticipated directions.
Hey lovely
Neurodivergent Women are sensitive to the ebb and flow of energy in themselves and their environments.
They are also subject to oppressive conditioning, which becomes internalised demands, of relentless consistency and constant growth. False expectations to be always available, in constant contact, head down and showing up for work, no matter what.
Which undermines our connection to authentic presence and movement.
Instead, I suggest feeling into the possibilities of shifting, seasonal consistency
Inspired by “considering the lilies”, through a lot of walking around on the ground, watching bursts of blooming colour come and go over time.
Tuning into the thrill in becoming, rather than consistently being open.
It seems that Spring has landed here suddenly in the last week.
I’ve been visiting my favourite local wildflower venue – Mooloolah river national park.
Much of the year it’s an expanse of low green shrubbery. (Monty Python giggles)
For six weeks between July and September each year it becomes a riot of blooming colour.
Intensely alive Mesmerising, attracting attention from all over.
And then the colour fades and the environment returns to background green photosynthesis business as usual. (with ongoing sparks of colour as different plants bloom in later seasons, all through the year)
Both parts of the cycle are necessary – the regular photosynthesis growth, and the expansive seasonal bloom.
Sometimes we can get stuck in one or the other phase, or be trying to do both at once.
The dance is to learn to switch between the two, responding to circumstances and opportunities as they arise, taking into account your own energy and desire levels.
Ultimately, the goal is to set time limits on availability for different energy level activities. That would be called scheduling, LOL.
But to achieve any of that sustainably, I suggest gently tuning in to existing energy level shifts.
Yours throughout the week (and month and year), and changing environmental influences as well.
Which sounds onerous – but what if it comes down to
“me going for a stupid little daily walk for my stupid physical and mental health”?
Where you will have a regular opportunity to notice how you’re feeling and where your attention is going.
In my short story “a woman dreams” , you’ll find simple descriptions of a spectrum of energy levels from joy to exhaustion and finally contentment, in response to shifting environmental contexts.
Perhaps you’ll find some situations you recognise.
The invitation is always to meet yourself, with curiosity, where you are now, as well as you are able.
From there, fresh possibilities can emerge, in response to the reality in which you find yourself.
Big love, and informative wandering, where ever you are
