Hey sweet

NeuroDivergent women are quick, capable and sensitive.   They see paths and invitations to move forward that other minds do not perceive.  They also sense problems and challenges that others ignore.

Immersed in a culture of toxic positivity which adopts and hijiacks exciting possibilities, forcing them into fixed outcomes, we can slip out of balance, trying so hard for best possible results, when that was never the true objective

The toxic positivity conditioning also applies pressure to push through pain.  Then the untended difficulties become overwhelming, shutting down the openness to fresh possibilities, leading to loss of joy in the whole project    

Exhausting, vicious circle of learned helplessness,  rising from oppressive external conditioning which demands ongoing positivity for others, while indefinitely delaying gratification for the neurodivergent woman holding the frozen vision.

What I suggest instead is to allow yourself to be guided by desires felt in contentment to lead you on to another level of contentment.  Allow yourself to pivot towards joy.

Hold the vision lightly and feel for the next step.   As new issues inevitably arise, new responses will also appear.  Allow intermediate outcomes to adapt as the adventure unfolds.  

Even when you feel overwhelm to be imminent, or discover yourself immersed in it, it is possible to imagine contentment, feel into it and allow that feeling to guide you gently back to spaciousness.

I wrote a short story about exactly this called “a woman dreams”

Featuring exquisite natural materials and Worimi country landscapes (Tea Gardens, NSW, Australia) captured in ephemeral art images by visual artist Shona Wilson.

You can download A Woman Dreams in pdf format here.  Right now, it’s still free, though it may not be forever.

I trust you to keep finding space to imagine and feel more.