Let’s talk about that very particular AuDHD struggle: getting out of your own way. You know the one. The swirl of overthinking, under-motivating, semi-panicked avoidance masked as Very Important Research (or tidying the fridge. Again). That feeling where you can see the next step, but can’t quite bring yourself to do it because… reasons. Because you don’t feel ready. Because maybe it’s not the right step. Because what if no one cares? Because maybe you should wait until you’re less tired/messy/existential?
Here’s the kicker: backing yourself is often the actual way out of that stuckness. It’s weird and circular and inconvenient, but true. When you say “yeah, okay, let’s do this weird, wobbly thing,” something opens. It doesn’t make everything easy, but it creates motion. It’s not a magic switch—it’s more like letting yourself be the first person in line to cheer you on. And when you do? That energy is surprisingly infectious.
Let me tell you a little story. I just started posting episodes of my new podcast Radiant Voices (!!!), where I get to chat with women doing deeply meaningful work. I’m thrilled, right? I look it up and see… I have one follower on Spotify. Yesss! Feeling like a rockstar. I post about it in my mentor group, get a couple more lovely follows. Pure joy. Then I look again and realize… that first follower? It was me. 😂
But you know what? That still counts. Because that moment of unconsciously backing myself sparked joy, movement, connection. The follow was me externally validating myself, and the feeling? 100% awesome, and then laugh out loud funny. And the ripple it started was real too. This is what I’m learning: when I back myself, I stop blocking the path with doubt. I stop being the monster at the end of the book—also me. I get to let some light and laughter in. (And sometimes even happy dance.)
💡 Curious Mind
What if the thing you’re avoiding is secretly your portal to progress? Just for today, what would it be like to assume your idea is good and go from there?
💓 Connected Heart
You’ve done harder things. Seriously. Can you remember a moment when you backed yourself even when it felt risky? Let that version of you remind you what’s possible.
🎨 Creative Body
Pick one tiny experiment. Not a big leap—more like a gentle lean. Post the thing. Wear the weird outfit. Follow yourself (yes, literally). See what happens next.
One Step Towards the Universe
Show up—however you are—to do your thing alongside others doing theirs
A gentle weekly online co-working / parallel play space for women with AuDHD in their lives.
There’s no pressure to perform or explain, just a consistent pocket of time where you get to be witnessed in your process, take one small step (or a nap, or a doodle), and feel the quiet momentum of not doing it all alone.
Come as you are.
Leave a little more connected to the universe—and yourself.
[✨ Have a look✨]
Spark up*
- When a woman dreams Stories change our way of seeing the world and ourselves. This is a short one – where will it take you? PDF download.
- From burnout to breakthrough: Sophie Guy, founder of True Nature Coaching, talks about how she found her way beyond burnout to sharing her passion for supporting others with nervous system regulation. Podcast episode
- Recalibrate your life for joy Get out of your own way in less than twenty minutes. If you dare. Audio guide.
🌱 An Invitation to Wonder
Can you think of a time—recent or long ago—when you backed yourself first and it made all the difference?
Maybe no one noticed but you.
Maybe it ended up rippling outward.
Either way, you noticed.
And that noticing matters.
Because sometimes you don’t know how powerful your voice is until you actually hear it come out. And when it does? Oof. Goosebumps. Even if the only one feeling it at first is you.
💌 Encouragement for Sensitive Souls
If none of this lands today, that’s totally okay.
You’re not broken if you don’t act on any of this.
In fact, noticing your “nope” is part of the path.
Real no’s help you feel into your true yes.
So here’s a gentle invitation: if there’s one thing here that sparks a little curiosity, maybe hold it like a warm cup for a while.
No pressure.
Just possibility.
And when in doubt?
Kindness to self.
Backing myself.
Backing yourself.
🐢💃✨
AuDHD-friendly Affirmation for self-backing women:
You don’t need outside validation to take your next step—but when it shows up, let it delight you.
Many women with AuDHD in their lives love to follow their curiosity, show up deeply, and make magic in their own nonlinear way.
They are conditioned to wait until everything makes sense, looks tidy, or feels 100% ready.
Which undermines our ability to honour the power of imperfect momentum and the truth that backing ourselves often comes first.
Remember you can start where you are, say no to what’s not for you, and still be moving toward everything that matters.
I trust you to feel for what’s real, take one weird little step, and laugh at your own fake follower moment when it happens.
Inside One Step Towards the Universe, you will find space to be seen without performing, supported without pressure, and gently moved by the quiet power of doing your thing together.
Notes on being kind to yourself when you're on a mission
Kindness to self!
Backing yourself > backing myself
So I have this podcast Radiant Voices, that I’m very excited about, where I get to speak with other women who are passionate about their work, .
Im working on posting the episodes and discover that unexpectedly, i have one follower
YaY
I have literally just learned that it’s the first follower that turns a founder into a leader (not a lone nut)
So i go into my business mentor group and post about how excited i am to have one follower on spotify – feeling like a rockstar!
Which is awesome, and then two other enthusiastic folks in the group give me a follow.
Amazing
Then i’m looking at the podcast again, and discover that I am following my podcast…
D’oh.
That first follower was ME!
LOL
But the message here is actually quite a profound one, not only about backing yourself,
But that if i’m backing myself, then i’m getting out of my own way.
And look at the joy and enthusiasm that unleashed not only in me, but in others who are hearing it.
Is there some correlation here with the monster at the end of the book? Also me?
Yes, because everywhere I look, the first person I always see and avoid seeing is me.
I think we walk around in bubbles of our own projections.
It is (only) possible to connect with others through shared experience/ideas/values/situations.
But that’s a window – to the universe…
Which is awesome, and then two other enthusiastic folks in the group give me a follow.
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