Ever notice how being profoundly kind to yourself gets hardest exactly when you need it most? When you’re deep in a challenge, pushing forward with all your fire, or totally stuck, staring at the wall, waiting for clarity? That’s the moment kindness feels like a luxury, like something for later—once you’ve earned it. But that’s a lie, isn’t it? The mission and the challenge are the same thing. They’re made of obstacles, of detours, of the weird in-between where you don’t know if you should rest or push forward.
And honestly? I don’t even know half the time. I assume I’ll get it wrong. I assume there’s a better choice that I’ll only recognize later, too late. But I also know this: every hero story has both. The push, the pause. The moment they think they’re failing, the moment they get help. The part where they collapse dramatically, and the part where they dance wildly (on the inside at least) because something finally clicked. And maybe what I need right now isn’t another dramatic push, but a little space. A wriggle. A breath. A kindness.
Movement isn’t just about progress—it’s about being with yourself in motion, even if that motion is a sway, a shift, a shimmy that goes nowhere in particular. Moving on the spot is movement. Dancing in uncertainty is movement. And sometimes, it’s exactly what makes the next step even possible. 💛
Curious Mind: The Wisdom of Getting It Wrong
What if there’s no perfect choice? What if the whole thing is a series of experiments, and every “wrong” choice is just part of the process? What would change if you assumed you’d get some things wrong—on purpose?
Connected Heart: You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
Risking help is hard. But so is going it alone. If you imagine yourself as the main character (which you are), who’s the unexpected sidekick showing up with the exact right support? Are you letting them in?
Creative Body: Make Room to Move
What if you didn’t push harder but made space instead? Space to stretch, to fidget, to roll your shoulders, to dance terribly for thirty seconds. Wiggle room. Literally. What shifts when you let your body move first, before your brain catches on?
AuDHD-friendly LOVE MOVES US
Because sometimes, the best way forward isn’t another thought—it’s a step, a sway, a stretch into something new. 💛
Stuck in your head?
Worry looping on repeat?
Let’s get things moving—gently, curiously, with love.
LOVE MOVES US is a guided journaling and dance session designed to shake up stuck thoughts, create space from worry, and help you feel what’s possible beyond overthinking.
No dance experience needed—just a willingness to wriggle, breathe, and see where movement takes you.
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Spark up*
- Rest, reflect, rewire retreat Transformational physical movement and dance is at the heart of this nervous system regulating escape. Early bird prices end next week.
- Breaking routine, finding purpose podcast Kelly Questions, Life organisation and transformational travel coach shares what it feels like to literally follow your heart far from the everyday. One of her friends texted her a photo of flight ticket prices and said “chasing that feeling you talked about in the podcast”.
- Wild Mandala AuDHDventure Go for a walk and creatively engage with the nature around you in this 60 minute audio guide.
An Invitation to Wonder
Think back to a time when your mind was looping, stuck on a problem you couldn’t think your way out of.
And then—maybe without planning to—you moved.
You went for a walk, stretched your arms overhead, danced in the kitchen, or shook out your hands.
For a little while, the worry loosened its grip.
The movement made space.
What did that feel like?
And what if, just for a moment, you let your body lead again?
Here’s a song that made me laugh and got me out of my chair to dance this week when I needed it most
BabyElephant Walk – Henry Mancini
A Note for Your Sensitive Soul 💛
You don’t have to fix anything today.
You don’t have to take all (or any) of these suggestions.
In fact, please don’t try to do everything at once.
Without real no’s, you won’t feel your true yes.
But if one thing here sparks something—just one—consider following it.
Not because you should, but because you can.
And that’s enough.
AuDHD-friendly Affirmation for mission-driven women:
You don’t have to push harder to be worthy—you can wriggle gleefully with very little space.
Many women with AuDHD in their lives love to
think deeply, care fiercely, and move in ways that make sense to them.
They are conditioned to
overthink, override their own rhythms, and believe that certainty must come before action.
Which undermines their ability to
trust movement as a way of knowing—of finding clarity through motion, not just thought.
Remember you can
dance with your uncertainty. Move before you’re sure. Let motion create space from worry.
I trust you to
find your own way—not by forcing it, but by letting yourself feel what’s next.
Inside LOVE MOVES US
you’ll get to explore this in real time—through journaling, gentle movement, and the kind of self-trust that builds with each step, shake, and sway. 💛
WRIGGLE ROOM (Drunk Bestie Edition 🍷✨)
Babes, Let’s Talk About Being Nice to Your Own Damn Self (Especially When You’re in the Thick of It)
Okay, listen. You know how right when you’re in the messiest, most dramatic part of life, being kind to yourself suddenly feels like some bougie nonsense for Future You to deal with? Like, “No, no, I gotta earn that self-compassion first by solving everything.” LIES. Straight-up lies. The mission is the struggle. The fire, the stuck-ness, the pacing around talking to yourself—it’s all part of it.
And honestly?? I never know if I should push harder or take a damn nap. I assume I’m getting it wrong either way. I assume some wiser, more put-together version of me will look back and be like, “Oh sweetie. That was not the move.” But you know what? Every hero story has both—the push, the pause. The collapse, the comeback. The “I AM RUINED” moment followed by the “Oh wait, no, I’m fine.” So maybe what we need right now isn’t a big dramatic shove forward, but like… a wiggle. A breath. A kindness.
Because movement? Doesn’t have to be progress. It can just be being with yourself, in motion. Even if it’s just a tiny sway. A dumb little dance. A shoulder shimmy that solves nothing but feels kinda nice. And sometimes, that’s exactly what makes the next step possible.
✨ Hot Takes from Your Wise, Slightly Tipsy Inner Bestie ✨
🧠 Curious Mind: What if there’s no right choice? What if the whole damn thing is just a messy string of experiments? What if you just accepted that some choices will be deliberately wrong? On purpose???
💛 Connected Heart: Being helped is so much worse than struggling alone, right? (WRONG. But I feel you.) If you’re the main character (which you are), who’s the surprisingly perfect sidekick showing up with exactly what you need? Are you letting them in?
🕺 Creative Body: Instead of pushing, what if you… wiggled? Like, literally. Stretched. Fidgeted. Shook out your arms like a feral little goblin. What if you let your body move before your brain caught up?
LOVE MOVES US: A Guided Journaling & Dance Session
Are you stuck in brain-hell? Spiraling thoughts on a loop? Babe, let’s shake it up—literally. LOVE MOVES US is a guided journaling and dance session to unstick your mind, create space from worry, and remind you that movement is magic. No dance experience required. Just a willingness to wriggle, breathe, and see what happens.
Because sometimes, the answer isn’t another thought. It’s a step. A sway. A stretch into something new. 💛
An Invitation to Wonder (Aka: Remember That One Time You Accidentally Fixed Yourself?)
Think back to a time when your brain was just spiraling—stuck, looping, running a full-length disaster movie. And then, without even meaning to… you moved. You took a walk. Stretched your arms. Shook out your hands. Danced like an unhinged Muppet in your kitchen. And for just a second—the grip loosened.
What did that feel like? And what if—just for a moment—you let your body lead again?
Here’s a song that made me laugh and got me out of my chair this week when I needed it most: Baby Elephant Walk. 🐘✨ (Trust me, just play it.)
A Soft Little Note for Your Sensitive Soul 💛
You do not have to fix a single thing today. You don’t have to do all (or even any) of this. Actually, please don’t try to do everything at once—how exhausting. But if one thing sparks something? Just one? Maybe follow it. Not because you should, but because you can. And that? That’s enough.
Notes on being kind to yourself when you're on a mission
Kindness to self when on a mission
Goodness me, that’s a deep hole
Starting from that edgy uncomfortable, bored, frustrated point
Hard to know which way to go.
Rest or work
How to figure that out
Honestly, i odnt even know
Assume i will get it wrong
How long do i wait to get the message
That i should have done the other thing
And now its too late
What do i need now???
What do i need now
The stories don’t really help
Heroes are always tired and pushing onward
And also they rest and get help
Somehow it’s both
How to risk help
It can’t always be the crux, the climax
There’s always alnother one of them anyway
I am often thinking i need to push harder and do more
But perhaps what i really need is to do less.
Push harder and do more because it’s hard to see what i am doing
But hten it turns out that what i do is nothing
Make space
To move
To stretch out
To let go
To wriggle
Wriggle room
Wiggle n giggle
Just dance
Ganesha is god of obstacles, both bringing them and removing them.
Allow them to be a blessing either way
Slowing me down, becoming more creative and accepting of humanity
Removing them, allowing ease and flow.
Until the next obstacle arises.
Urgh.
Kindness to self.
Especially when on a mission.
Which will be full of obstacles, that’s why its a mission
And the hope that the obstacles will be removed, overcome, by both effort and grace.
That’s all i’ve got today.
