This is your call to adventure

Written by Rachael Skyring

Rachael Skyring is a curious woman. AuDHD (very late diagnosed). Committed carer. Over thinker. Sensitive feeler. Stubborn AF. With postgraduate degrees in Astrophysics and Rocket Science, she's spent the last twenty years as mostly a Mum, the last ten honing her metaphysical quantum brain surgery skills through mindful movement and embodiment practices. Whoever you want to be, and wherever you want to go, Rachael can start you on your way. The sky's the limit. Let's begin!

22 October 2024

Ready enough is ready

 

It unfolds as you go.   It makes sense as you look back and forward, not necessarily in the moment.

 

And not every moment needs to be FULL now, because there are more moments available.    Inshallah.  ان شاء الله  

Neurodivergent women are curious and enquiring, kinesthetic learners – they may learn best by experiencing and doing.

 

And they are conditioned to tame their quick minds to being taught, to staying inside the lines, to follow instruction, to stay on track and target.

 

Which undermines our trust in our steady, non-linear gathering and synthesis of meaning when it clashes with received authority.

 

I suggest establishing a discipline of curiosity (and kindness), so that you can call on it when you need it most.  

 

For me, that’s when I find myself descending into an unhelpful spiral of self doubt and criticism, usually because I’m not conforming to some externally imposed, subconsciously internalised expectation of performance.

 

Curiosity can lighten things up quickly.  

 

Oh, here i am again!   Ok.  How is it serving me to be miserable and self flagellating when I could simply rest and let this go for a while?   Hmmm.  What would I rather be doing now?

 

Take a nap.   Go for a walk.  Cook/craft something.   Do the washing up.    Something simple and direct that makes an immediate and visible difference.    

 

Remind yourself of the practical power at your fingertips.

 

To dream.  To move.  To create.   To bring clarity and order.

 

I don’t want to suggest for a moment that this is an easy or natural transition for everybody, although it can be taught.

 

But mostly, it needs to be learned through repeated modelling (community) and supported practice (creativity).

 

And this is your call to adventure.

 

Because the way your own curiosity will lead you to learn and grow is completely unique and uncharted territory.

 

It’s ok, if apparently unfortunate, that so often we only discover how vitally important curiosity is when we’ve stopped following it for a while and get out of the habit, then find ourselves in an uncomfortable dead end … again

This week I wrote a poem.  Can’t be any more direct than poetry.

 

The form of the poem is an OOREI created by Beau Sia on Instagram @beausia, brought to my attention by @adriennemareebrown

I find this form accessible to write because it encourages me to keep the title, the message, anchored front of mind, helping me go deeper, not wander off… (although those two might not be so different)

 

After I’d written this particular poem, I was very aware of the pulsing repetition of the title line, which then brought to mind Bonnie Bainbridge Cohen’s description of the Blood Circulatory System in her book “Sensing, Feeling and Action : Experiential Anatomy.”

 

Arterial blood, travelling outward from the heart, pulses with a regular, precise, rhythmic beat.

Venous blood, returning to the heart, is continuous, cyclic, wave like, alternately rising and falling.

 

For me, the feeling of this poetry form matches that description well.   A clear repeated outward signal, then rest and listen, the reply comes back continuous, rising and falling.

 

She also writes that “the blood circulation system functions in communication, nurturing, embracing, gentleness, assertiveness and the flowing towards and away from ourselves and others.”

 

 

So I wrote this poem from a place of stuckness – needing to get words out to send you this week’s message.  Perhaps you can see/feel something of my mental journey in the writing.

 

For the easter egg hunters, there’s three pop culture nerd nods to find.

Taylor Swift, Dr Who and Hunters and Collectors.

 

This is your call to adventure

Were you expecting trumpets and horses

Were you waiting for your wardrobe support

Now.  it’s here, now, with your name on it

Inviting you in to this moment your body your self

Can you hear it?  Can you feel it?

Or have you become so distracted and busy you are numb

Numb to what it is to feel a call.

No one has reached out for so long, you’ve forgotten your name

Your name, your story, your desires all present.

Everything and everyone you need is here now.

THIS IS YOUR CALL TO ADVENTURE

This is your call to action hints predictive text

I am honestly confused and silenced by your indifference

It’s your call, it’s your turn, it’s your time!

Yes, you, the one who has been silent and waiting

Hello.  Are you there?  Is anybody in there?

I have a message to deliver, and I need to find a receiver.

Beep beeb, beeb bop beep bop beep beep beep

What is the language you can comprehend

Secret – it’s in the subtext.   And in the text

Can it be the same message all the way down

THIS IS YOUR CALL TO ADVENTURE

Echoing across time and space

Again and again the same message

It’s you, it’s you, it’s you.

The world is waiting for you.

Narcissus gazing longingly into the pond

Hearing it’s you it’s you it’s you.

It’s confusing for a mind that sees only its reflection

Close your eyes.  You still exist.

It’s you, it’s you, it’s you.

Wherever you turn, it’s you.

THIS IS YOUR CALL TO ADVENTURE

Turn inward.  It’s you, it’s you, it’s you.

Tissue, tissue, tissue.  Bless you.

Issue, issue, issue.  It’s you, it’s you, it’s you.

It’s me?  I’m the problem?  It’s me?

The clock ticks loudly.  The egg timer tick tocks.

The words click out from under my fingers.

Whose call to adventure?  Now i;m confused.

Every day the confusion about who should go and who should stay

Can you hear the drums?

Your heartbeat, your blood in your veins.

THIS IS YOUR CALL TO ADVENTURE

This is your call to adventure

This is your call to adventure.

This is your call to adventure.

What else, unfamiliar needs your attention

What is awkward, difficult, confronting

THIS IS YOUR CALL TO ADVENTURE

What is delightful, tempting, delicious

Long awaited, long denied.

THIS IS YOUR CALL TO ADVENTURE

Which direction is the blindspot ?

You don’t have to go alone.

THIS IS YOUR CALL TO ADVENTURE

You don’t have to go alone.

Who will you bring with you?

THIS IS YOUR CALL TO ADVENTURE

Throw away the stories, the lives of the saints and heroes.

Follow your own path.  Theirs is known.

THIS IS YOUR CALL TO ADVENTURE

A cryptic whisper.  A searing stab of pain.

A frustrating niggle.   A deep longing.

THIS IS YOUR CALL TO ADVENTURE

Whichever way you go now

Adventure is calling you.

THIS IS YOUR CALL TO ADVENTURE

Pay attention.  You’re standing in it.

Already conscripted.  You’ve done the training.

Now it’s your call.

Two more immersions in LOVE MOVES US under the full moon and I can assure you that it’s DEEP and rich.

 

It can hold all of you that you can hold and a little bit more.   It’s  both spacious and supportive.

 

And if you want to float on the surface, or fly over, or turn away, that is welcome too.   There’s no wrong way to engage with it.

 

But concretely, if you’re bored, frustrated, disengaged, fidgety, you’re especially invited in.

 

And because finding the time to do the things we need to do is difficult for many of us:

 

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