Tending the quiet flame of joy

Tending the quiet flame of joy

Ohhh, my radiant, magical, brilliantly unstoppable friend. Do you even KNOW the joy you bring into the world?? Like, truly? It’s the kind of glow that sneaks up on you, makes me giggle, makes you giggle, and suddenly—bam!—there’s this inside-out warmth, this...
I don wanna! (and other hidden invitations)

I don wanna! (and other hidden invitations)

Empathy isn’t instant. It’s not a light switch we flick on when we see someone struggling. It’s a process—a slow unfolding of attention, patience, and perspective. Sometimes, we get there right away. Other times, we have to sit with discomfort, our own and others’,...
Why it’s hard to fill your own cup

Why it’s hard to fill your own cup

 (Especially with AuDHD in your life) You know you’re supposed to fill your own cup first. You’ve heard all the metaphors—oxygen masks, overflowing cups, giving from abundance rather than depletion. And yet, when it comes time to actually rest in a way that feels...
“I need a holiday!”

“I need a holiday!”

Why It’s So Hard for Women with AuDHD to Take a Deeply Restorative Break.  From the outside, it may look like we’ve designed lives full of delightful variety—satisfying work, community service, family time, movement, social connection, personal downtime (ideally with...
Feeling with, not fixing.

Feeling with, not fixing.

Waiting in Uncertain Silence Silence can feel like an ache, like a space demanding to be filled. But what if we let it be? When we wait in uncertain silence, we create room for others to feel what they feel—without rushing in to fix or reframe. This is not passivity;...