Yesterday, I went walking on a local mountain.
It was one of those impossibly clear afternoons—the kind that reminds you how lucky you are to live where you do. The Glasshouse Mountains stood as they always do: iconic, quiet, vast. I was with a small group of women, most of whom I know through Montessori. Montessori mums, past and present, across two states and many seasons of life. It’s where most of my adult friendships have grown.
Frankie was there. We talked.
She’s been hustling the past few years.
Full-time executive admin role—diverse, challenging, satisfying. She’s growing with her organisation. She owns a house now. Her kids have left home. She’s officially an empty nester. There’s a steady list of things to do around the house, but she misses yoga. She used to teach it, once. She loved it.
She’s the kind of woman who makes herself available for outcomes over hours. The dependable kind. The “I’ve got this” kind. That tends to mean nights and weekends. She’s noticed. She’s also noticed that she’d really like her time back—for her physical, emotional, and mental health.
But she’s not in a rush. She’s trusting the moment will come.
And I think she’s right.
Perfect timing is a real thing.
And just to be clear—perfect doesn’t mean everything is tidy or in place.
It means the desire is present.
And if it’s calling you now, listen.
Because not everyone does.
A recent post from The School of Life reminds us:
“Cancer wards tell a consistent story: regret belongs to those who remain loyal to expectations, rather than themselves.”
It’s a confronting line—and I believe it’s true.
But also—let’s be honest—living in service to expectations is often necessary. Sensible. Smart. Especially in our working and parenting years.
But later in life—hello menopause—something shifts.
Frankie told me she heard on a podcast that progesterone acts as a mild sedative. As it declines, our clarity increases. That checks out. We become sharper. More discerning. More awake to what’s never really been ours.
We begin to hear the siren song of the self.
It is scary, though.
Many of us have spent our lives actively avoiding the truth of what we really want.
But the reward for daring?
Inner peace. Liberation.
The audacity of caring less.
Of seeing past the inner critic, the voice of eternal expectation, and leaning into the sweetness of being more ourselves.
It’s revolutionary.
It’s sustainable.
Because as ourselves, we often need much, much less than what expectation demands.
And in that space, we begin to discover something else entirely:
Abundance.
Internal motivation.
A different kind of drive.
One that feels beautiful. Purposeful.
At peace—and in motion.
With time, finally, for moving toward dreams.
And every step, somehow, a delight.
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Drafting notes on the audacity
Went for a walk on a beautiful clear afternoon.
On a local mountain.
Glasshouses. Iconic.
With a small group of women who are/have been Montessori Mums, which is where i know them from.
(where most of my adult friends are from in fact, across two states)
So talking with Frankie yesterday.
She’s been hustling the last few years.
Full time executive admin job, which is diverse and satisfying.
Growing with her org.
Now she’s a house owner.
Kids have left home.
So also empty nester.
Has house things to do.
Misses yoga.
Is aware that a person who prides herself on being excellent at work and at parenting,
That she makes herself available for outcomes over hours.
Which means that she is often working more hours
Nights and weekends.
She would like time back
For her health, mental, physical, emotional.
She used to be a yoga teacher, and she loved that.
She can’t say where she’d start.
Not in a hurry.
Trusting the moment will come.
And it probably will.
Perfect time is a real thing.
School of Life:
https://www.instagram.com/p/DKi_zlDs_zr/?img_index=1&igsh=Y254amozMmNoYjM1
Cancer wards tell a consistent story: regret belongs to those who remain loyal to expectations, rather than themselves.
IMHO, both are necessary. (so working towards expectations is smart and sensible too)
And later in life – hello menopause –
Oh also learned from the same friend from a menopause podcast,
That progesterone is a mild sedative, so as its production declines, we do indeed become sharper.
It becomes increasingly important to heed the siren song of the self.
(Also reading Woman’s Lore, about the very very long history of sirens and what they might mean. Will speak to this next week i think, it seems important)
And it’s genuinely scary.
This is what many of us have actively avoided for much of our lives.
And the reward for daring is inner peace. Liberation. Caring less. The audacity!
The audacity of seeing past the inner critic, holding us to expectations
To the sweetness of simply being more ourselves.
Revolutionary
Sustainable
Often, as ourselves, we need much much less that what expectation expects.
Oh,
So we then discover abundance.
And internal motivation.
Beautiful and purposeful.
At peace, and in motion.
With time for moving towards dreams.
And every step a delight.
[R]est and repose apply especially to the suspended activity of the body ; ease and quiet to freedom from occupation or demands for activity, especially of the body ; tranquility and peace to the freedom of the mind from harassing cares or demands.
Rest signifies primarily to cease from action or work, but naturally by extension to be refreshed by doing so, and further to be refreshed by sleeping. Repose does not necessarily imply previous work, but does imply quietness, and generally a reclining position, while we may rest in a standing position.
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