Real progress — true creativity — begins when the mind accepts the body’s capacity, and the body receives the mind’s vision. It’s an inner reconciliation, a quiet alchemy.
Embodiment, to me, is the holy grail.
In myth and mysticism — from the tale of the Fisher King to Christian contemplative traditions — we find echoes of this truth. The wound that won’t heal, the grail that must be guarded, the ungrounded leader estranged from the land: these speak to a mind disconnected from the body, from the earth, from reality.
Not by good works alone, but by grace.
And grace is often found not in transcendence, but in return — to the self, to the earth, to the body.
From Homer’s Illiad to Shakespeare’s Midsummer Night’s Dream to John Hugh’s The Breakfast Club, what endures is human nature: our resistance to connection and our longing for a place to belong. This paradox — our fear of intimacy, our yearning for it — is ancient. Religious and spiritual practices have always pointed toward this same bridging.
Yoga, for example, means to yoke — the union of mind and body. But it is the heart, the self that makes the bridge.
The word asana — posture or pose — literally means seat: the idea that the mind would find its seat, its home, in the body.
Christian mysticism echoes this. Which brings me back to the holy grail.
Traditionally seen as the cup of peace, of abundance — I realized suddenly: the grail is the body.
The body — long associated with the feminine, and too often reduced or objectified as woman — is sacred. That’s a whole other story, equally vital, but not the one I’m telling here.
The connection I want to draw is between this image of the mind finding a seat, a resting place, and the grail — the full, even overflowing cup, the source of peace and contentment.
When the mind can rest in the body,
When the body is enough — exactly as it is —
That is when real creativity becomes possible.
And when the body can listen to the mind —
When the visions from the mind are not overwhelming,
but simply delightful suggestions and invitations —
then deep shift is inevitable.
These two ways of being long to connect,
to work together in the cold light of day.
You’ve been high. You’ve been low.
There is nowhere else to go,
except here, now, in your body.
And still,
you are here.
In the world.
Doing your part as one in a million on the same crusade.
It’s enough. You’re enough. You’re plenty!
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It’s part of the path
— and going on from here is a worthy quest,
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AuDHD-friendly affirmation for scarred women
You are not too much — your mind is a visionary, and your body is the grail.
Many women with AuDHD in their lives love to gather fragments of truth and imagine what could be — even when it feels impossible to live it out.
They are conditioned to carry others’ needs, override their bodies, and prove their worth through effort.
Which undermines our ability to hear the quiet wisdom of our bodies and rest long enough to let vision become form.
Remember you can be full without overflowing, still without stopping, real without explaining.
I trust you to move at the pace of your own integration — because you are not lost, just re-entering.
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Notes on deep connection and the holy grail
Hmm self is the yoke?
That links mind, body, heart?
No wonder sometimes stretched thin when they’re all going strange ways…
Do I need to talk about all of this today?
Can put it in the notes…
Been high and low, time to meet in the middle and go forward together.
I trained and practiced as a yoga instructor it’s there I learned the concepts
And yet I was also aware of the exoticism
Where is this teaching in my own inherited Christan based culture
And I recently found the word yoke
In this book quote ‘Acedia and its discontents’
The best remedy against sloth, at least according to Evagrius, is one our freedom would find disgusting, for it requires remaining under the yoke, hypomonè. Keeping yoked, that is, maintaining fidelity, is unbearable to the suzerains of the world.
For the medievals, a thing known—a tree or cat, say—was a subject of being, it held its own act of existence, whereas we view things as objects. As subjects, creatures had interiority, a form or nature or essence that we did not create but were nevertheless bound to recognize
in the self-donation of our work we enrich the world and fulfill ourselves.
enrich the world through the self-gift of work,
We are tied to the world and each other. And our minds to our hearts and bodies.
the more something possesses itself, the more it turns to others.
self-communicative love is the purpose of every creature,
That which gives itself flourishes; the greater the being, the more it is itself as it gives.
finite things are rich and poor. Being rich, they operate and have something to give, but as poor they must become full.
stone, for instance, has very little to give, but gives all that it has simply by existing. An animal is richer, capable of acting in the world through motion, nutrition, and reproduction, but must do a lot more to accomplish these ends.
we have more to do before we have given well.
Christian mysticism
Regarding embodiment imho
Ungrounded leadership
Guarding holy grail from interacting with the earth/reality
Hmmm
Not by good works alone, but by grace
Ok, so i need to riff on what i was thinking here some more
From homer to shakespeare to the breakfast club
What is timeless is human nature
Our resistance to connection, mostly.
And desire to find a place.
Religious and spiritual practices also are as old as humanity
Yoga means to yoke – mind and body together > and it is the heart that makes the bridge
Christian mysticism teaches something similar.
Asana means seat – that the mind would find a seat, a home, a house in the body.
Which brings me to holy grail
The cup of peace and abundance.
I suddenly realised, that the holy grail is the body
Which has long been associate with the feminine, which becomes conflated with woman
And that’s a whole other story, which is also vitally important, but i’m not telling it here
The connection is between the idea of seat for the mind
And the full cup, even overflowing
And then there is something else about pouring out lifeblood, as libation
(Which is also another story, also vitally important, and i’ll also come back to it)
So it is when the mind can rest with the body
When the body is enough, no matter what
That real creativity becomes possible.
when the body can listen to the mind, when the visions from the mind are not overwhelming but simply allegorical suggestions, then deep shift is inevitable.
The two ways of being long to connect and work congruently in the cold light of day. Been high and been low.
There is nowhere else to go. you’re still here, in the world doing your part in the millions.
More on support through transition
The gifts of connection and clarity
- people and purpose make it possible
When the life you built no longer fits
- a structure for what you are working through
The magic of comfortable shoes
- resting into what fits you, even if it seems unusual
Creative body and the holy grail
