Hey lovely
I love how when you start thinking about the Invisible Woman she starts showing up in your life.
Thank you to everybody who has shared with me Invisible Woman messages they’ve received.
This podcast contains a compelling core message of returning to the freedom and joy of exploring creative self expression, after many years of very narrow life choices.
There are many ways to be/become invisible. One is to become the rock on which many people around you depend. Steady, reliable, hard working. These are admirable traits. Until you’re exhausted and beyond needing a break but can’t see a way to take one. Or find the energy to “have fun” the way you once did.
This is exactly the conversation I was having with one woman this week. Working two jobs, watching youtube and reading books has filled her life. She’s anxious and overwhelmed and struggling see a way out. She’s smart and self aware, and has been able to outsource some business activities she finds difficult in order to reduce her stress levels. Taking the next step into actually slowing down and relaxing into free time, not getting on with her ever present to do list in down time, is the next challenge.
Whether you’re a wife, a mother, serving your own clients or in the employ of another, in all these roles, you are the rock, the source of calm, stability and knowledge. Day in, day out, you show up and make other people’s lives easier, simpler, smoother, more comfortable. People remember you for the care you offer and come to expect it. Which is genuinely satisfying until you realise you are caring more for others than for yourself.
You can take care of your business/work/family life, make it smoother and more efficient by outsourcing many activities.
But nobody else can have fun for you. Nobody else can relax for you. Nobody else can laugh for you. Or cry for that matter. Or truly think, wonder, or dream for you.
Some stuff you have to make space and time to do for yourself. To care for yourself. To think and dream for yourself.
The world and the people around you will offer you endless suggestions, temptations and advice, much of it wellmeaning, some of it not so much.
But in the end, it is only by following your own quirky dreams, desires and plans that will bring you more of the lightness and joy that are currently missing from your life.
I’m probably not telling you anything you’ve not heard many times before, one way or another.
The only question really is whether this is the moment when you will decide to choose yourself again, to open your mind to previously invisible options. To open your heart and life to the Invisible Woman you’ve not yet allowed to see the light of day.
You could start right now. Lean back, breathe. Relax for a moment into the support that is here for you in the form of the chair you’re sitting in/on. Let your gaze soften and wander around the space you’re in. Notice the things around you that feel warm and supportive. Rest into that feeling for as long as you’re willing and able.
Repeat, whenever you remember – and especially when you notice you’re dropping into overwhelm and tunnel vision. Lean back, breathe, soften into physical support, widen your vision, allow affirming mental/emotional support from your environment.
A daily practice perhaps? For two weeks until the new moon?
And please keep sharing your Invisible Woman encounters. The more you have her in mind, the more she’ll show up in your life, the sooner you’ll truly receive the deep message of love and acceptance she has for you.
